Comments on The Diva's Random Thoughts: A Case Of The Blahs

2009-12-24T09:13:51.934-05:00

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Awww I know thats heart breaking...But let them do...

2009-12-23T08:26:48.205-05:00

Awww I know thats heart breaking...But let them do you, dont let them ruin it for you! Enjoy this holiday with your mom while you can....

I hope it turns out well for you. I will be think...

2009-12-22T23:00:06.577-05:00

I hope it turns out well for you. I will be thinking about you.

Well just know that we will be thinking of you at ...

2009-12-22T19:25:49.622-05:00

Well just know that we will be thinking of you at this time and hopping that you will find some peace...Holidays are hard when family is involved...it never seems to be as special as it does when your a kid...Look on the bright side...You could have a crazy sister like me...

I'm with you. I am a grinch. holidays stress m...

2009-12-22T14:39:12.753-05:00

I'm with you. I am a grinch. holidays stress me out and my crazy family makes me want to choke myself

I was surprised that my husband's family did n...

2009-12-22T06:59:07.098-05:00

I was surprised that my husband's family did not have one last big holiday season the year that they knew their mother was dying. They had mostly stopped the big family things a few years before, and I was glad of it, as I have never known what to expect of them and it made me uncomfortable. But I would have thought that they would have put everything else aside that year and do something together, and I wouldn't have minded, but either they didn't do anything or they decided to do something without us.

While I like Suburban Scream's idea, I am guessing that you were already planning to do most of the work yourself, and you still didn't get anywhere with the idea.

I am sad to hear this and my heart breaks for you ...

2009-12-22T01:22:36.149-05:00

I am sad to hear this and my heart breaks for you and your mom. I will keep my fingers crossed that your brothers will have a moment of clarity and bond with you as a family.

My Mom and I lived with her parents so I grew up f...

2009-12-21T23:26:07.017-05:00

My Mom and I lived with her parents so I grew up feeling kind of like an extension of that family and not that it was just my Mom and me. When my Grandma died -46 years ago -that ended all the holidays as I had grown up knowing and LOVING them. When it later became just me and my kids I wanted so much to have our holidays be as much as possible like they'd been for me, as a child. In that respect, I guess it's true about never being able to go back. I still long for the same kind of connections that existed between my Mom, her siblings, my cousins, back then but that just isn't in the cards. So now, I work to try to see that Kurt and Maya and Alex, my older grandson, have a little of that sense of family connection to remember in a good way (hopefully) in years to come when they are adults and trying to start their own families and their own set of traditions. It's a tough thing to walk away from but as you go on, you try to rebuild those feelings anyway you can to give yourself a sense of continuity I guess. Today, my cousins and I are all pretty much just relatives, not really "family" but I do see more and more in my kids that they extend to each other their own glue, their own "tightness"and solidarity so maybe they'll hold that aspect as they grow older and stay together, keep the young ones in that mold then too. Just hard to pick up pieces and try to find a fit for them, ya know, but keep trying, and you'll find something that keeps your spirit of the season alive and growing again.

Ah, I hate that for you!

2009-12-21T21:42:37.216-05:00

Ah, I hate that for you!

Same in my family... My mom was the glue but she&#...

2009-12-21T19:48:37.141-05:00

Same in my family... My mom was the glue but she's been gone 6 years now, and it's not the same.

Hi there, Diva... I totally understan your positio...

2009-12-21T16:18:39.136-05:00

Hi there, Diva... I totally understan your position... My Mom died just before Thanksgiving years ago... we tried to keep the holiday thing going, but it was "Mom"... she was the glue that held it all together...

Then my divorce came along... WTF?!?!?!?!

But you know what? Its ok... We have to acknowledge that Time does change things...

I've got my decorations up... I am thoroughly enjoying Christmas... although things arent the same... and Christmas Eve Night, I will open a bottle of wine... will toast My Mom and Dad... and some good friends who have passed on... and will adore Christmas...

~shoes~

Oh, Tee. I am sorry. Your brothers need to be bi...

2009-12-21T14:46:26.070-05:00

Oh, Tee. I am sorry. Your brothers need to be bitch slapped. I like Suburban Scream's idea. More work for you, but it will make Mom happy.

It is a very sad time, and for your Mom, she must ...

2009-12-21T12:03:30.676-05:00

It is a very sad time, and for your Mom, she must feel like it's the last one too. I'm sorry, and I do understand, when my mother died, our family came all apart and we never made it back together right. Now we're all just relatives, not like "family" anymore. There's no repairing it.

Secretia

Males don't seem to have the obligation or the...

2009-12-21T12:02:32.297-05:00

Males don't seem to have the obligation or the right thing to do gene. I would call them up and lay a big guilt trip on them and see what happens. otherwise screw them they have to deal with those feelings.

I know how you feel. My grandmother is our family ...

2009-12-21T11:51:12.242-05:00

I know how you feel. My grandmother is our family glue. If she is gone, I don't see us all gathering together anymore.

Explain that to your brothers. I am the crazy tra...

2009-12-21T11:16:16.727-05:00

Explain that to your brothers. I am the crazy tradition keeper in my family. When I explained how important traditions were to me to my brother and sister, they worked with me to make things happen.

What if you organized a family get-together yourse...

2009-12-21T11:04:46.969-05:00

What if you organized a family get-together yourself? Do all the planning and get all the food - nothing fancy, even - and just pretty much tell your brothers when and where. Surely, they'd agree to be there, right? It might not be exactly how you wanted it to happen, but better than nothing, right? And maybe still nice for your mom to have you all around for a while.

I can't wait for it all to be over, too. I just blogged about the same thing, actually.